tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post4397720502456242228..comments2023-10-10T03:09:12.713-07:00Comments on Smart Stepfamilies: Power and MotiveFajitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05704189756009543355noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-51766018323136691042007-04-23T07:55:00.000-07:002007-04-23T07:55:00.000-07:00You are so right. This is a case of the more thin...You are so right. This is a case of the more things change, the more they stay the same. And yes, it is terribly unfair. It is so difficult to remain good faced with daily injustices. We just hope that in the end the good will prevail.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-72491888587791788792007-04-19T09:00:00.000-07:002007-04-19T09:00:00.000-07:00Anon, I think you bring the everyday experience fr...Anon, I think you bring the everyday experience front and center here. It is so hard to be in a co-parenting relationship with a former spouse and be the only one being good. It's terribly unfair. <BR/><BR/>At the same time, you are not to change that person. You can't. Being good is not a tool to change anyone. Instead, it is decision about who you are. <BR/><BR/>Power, in this situation, is not being changed by people who are not good to you. Power to be yourself instead of reactiing to other's badness and therefore being controlled by them. <BR/><BR/>Keep up being good, but do not measure its success by the amount of change in your former spouse.Fajitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704189756009543355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-25626103234687270952007-04-17T08:27:00.000-07:002007-04-17T08:27:00.000-07:00With regard to step parenting, what gives a person...With regard to step parenting, what gives a person more power? Custody?, Being Right? Better Lawyer?<BR/>We strive to be good, "win her with kindness" It doesn't ever work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com