tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post4836342537843372000..comments2023-10-10T03:09:12.713-07:00Comments on Smart Stepfamilies: ResistFajitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05704189756009543355noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-21557122702164808312008-09-16T07:44:00.000-07:002008-09-16T07:44:00.000-07:00Wanting to fix everything is definitely a struggle...Wanting to fix everything is definitely a struggle for stepmoms too, especially when the father is assaulted emotionally and financially by a bitter ex-wife, and the kids are caught in the line of fire. It is hard to watch people you care about suffer and not feel like you should jump in and stop the pain.Smirking Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15337751877658931171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-6750538813550139292008-08-29T18:23:00.000-07:002008-08-29T18:23:00.000-07:00When a divorced or widowed parent remarries, no on...When a divorced or widowed parent remarries, no one is really prepared for what lies ahead--not the parent, not the spouse, not the adult children. The first shock is usually the stark contrast between the joy of the older bride and groom and the response of virtually everyone else in both their families. There's a big difference between them. The parents choose to be married. They are volunteers. The adult children are being drafted; they didn't choose this new arrangement. It is being imposed upon them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-22201862419533250952008-05-14T15:21:00.000-07:002008-05-14T15:21:00.000-07:00What about those stepfathers who jump in and want ...What about those stepfathers who jump in and want to change/control everything? It is a struggle in our house lots of times that my husband and I are so different when it comes to parenting styles.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-46275326170505068102008-02-02T22:27:00.000-08:002008-02-02T22:27:00.000-08:00Good advice. I've tried to be the hero and failed...Good advice. I've tried to be the hero and failed from the repercussions after 6 years of marriage. My relationship with my wife is strained because of my relationship with my stepson and my relationship with my stepson has gone nowhere from day one (it seems) -- it's a grueling road. Resist.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30713143.post-6312047358869300122008-01-18T11:42:00.000-08:002008-01-18T11:42:00.000-08:00I could not agree more with this advice. For thir...I could not agree more with this advice. For thirteen years I have been the stepmother of two children who lost their mom when they were six and four. Since their mother was not around physically, the temptation to jump in and play the mom role was even greater. When I stopped trying to be such a mom and focused instead on helping my spouse be a stronger parent, the kids saw me as more than an intrusion. I've captured this and other guidance about living with a child whose parent has died in my book, Stepparenting the Grieving Child. If you are looking for help on this topic, please check out my website at www.dianefromme.com.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com